My friend committed suicide a few weeks ago and she was the same. She travelled, she had just graduated with honours, she walked her dog every day, she attended therapy and told everyone she was feeling better, and then she killed herself.
I have a friend who gets deeply depressed and every day I'm terrified I'm going to get a text from someone saying they are gone. I just don't know how to help them and it breaks my heart.
There was a kid at my high school who was good at sports, did well in honors classes, dated a nice girl for years, got accepted into multiple good universities and had amazing parents. One day he killed himself in his garage and left a note saying “hopefully now the demons in my head will go away”.
Psychiatrists worry about people who have “High Functioning Depression” more than the ones who are more easily diagnosable. They have a higher propensity for suicide and there is less if any intervention beforehand because nobody can tell how bad it is for them.
Edit: The worst is when someone says something like, "Well you just need to figure out what makes you feel that way and fix it". The answer is absolutely nothing. I am living my ideal life and love it, it doesn't change the fact that I often can barely get out of bed or the white noise in my head gets so strong that I can't even focus on a conversation.
Clinical depression has no simple solution. Just have to try your hardest to be strong.
Lost 4 friends in the past 3 years.
1 committed suicide. Had beautiful family. Great job, working for the DOD making good money. One of the funniest guys I've ever met. Never didn't have a smile on his face. Never could have a conversation without him making you laugh. Talked to him Friday night, he was gone Saturday.
I now tell my close friends I love them. Whether it's "gay" or "snowflake" behavior to have a guy tell his guy friends he loves them. You never know what's going on in your best friends head. I'm tired of losing friends.
I'm sick with this disease that demands high levels of stimulation all the time. Any lows are really low. It sucks. I have to strive for and demand from myself highly intense things to keep myself happy.
I’ve been struggling for a while and after several years of telling myself I need help, have finally taken the steps to find someone to talk to.
can someone send this to my mom for me, thx q
To be fair I don't think people can comprehend it at all.
I have been depressed for 13 years now. Been on anti depressants, had therapy, had great friends and experiences, supportive family, achieved plenty. But none of it makes a difference. No amount of anything good makes a difference. I think that's pretty mind blowing to some people but it's simply the truth.
All the reasons, all the things for giving you joy have no effect. Imagine living, day in and day out, doing everything you can with nothing to sustain your soul. Imagine your emotional blueprint either being sad, angry or empty. I've gotten less intelligent, less focused also.
I'd say it's hard but it's just normal now. Feeling like that everyday is mine and a lot of depressed people's normal day to day life.
Being alive is a chore.
Wearing the mask of normality to hide the pain, people who abuse the weakness, people who ignore the problem, people who empathise though do nothing, people you've helped who simply ignore you.
Your mind exploits you at your worst and fuels the fear through the actions and inactions of others.
Well that's my experience of depression, what's yours?
I can understand. A person can be full of life, laughing and carrying on with people they care about and that care about them but still feel completely alone. I know that feeling quite well
...Or just don’t have any desire to be alive anymore.
Nothing screams “freedom” like making living a mandatory obligation, some people just want off the ride.
My friend committed suicide a week ago today. I needed to see this.
I have learnt with my spouse that depression is essentially a chronic condition and sometimes it goes into remission, other times it's very acute and debilitating. I don't treat it like it's something he'll one day beat and never have another episode because that's just not how it works. I will be by his side every step of the way, and when he's having a hard time I'll work a little bit harder to keep the normalcy.
If we were all just a bit more compassionate and consider the similar struggles we all face, maybe life would be a little easier for everyone.
Whenever Richard Cory went down town,
We people on the pavement looked at him:
He was a gentleman from sole to crown,
Clean favored, and imperially slim.
And he was always quietly arrayed,
And he was always human when he talked;
But still he fluttered pulses when he said,
"Good-morning," and he glittered when he walked.
And he was rich—yes, richer than a king—
And admirably schooled in every grace:
In fine, we thought that he was everything
To make us wish that we were in his place.
So on we worked, and waited for the light,
And went without the meat, and cursed the bread;
And Richard Cory, one calm summer night,
Went home and put a bullet through his head.
-- Edward Arlington Robinson
8 out of 10 people who have considered or are considering suicide show signs of their intent, this means that 2 out of 10 don't.
Well this doesn't make me feel better I thought improving my life would make me happier.
“You just have to eat better”. Fuck you.
I mean... none of us asked to be born into this world.. and life gets old (to put it in mild terms). Suicide is still such a taboo subject, but is it possible that not all those who commit suicide is depressed?
Its hard for people who dont suffer from suicidal thoughts what it is like to daily and almost constantly be bombarded with the thought of suicide. It is never far away, it is always there, and it is a brutal thing to live with. The best way I have heard it described is that it is like being in a burning building and finally you decide to jump out.
Ah, this hits home actually. I usually scroll past these as "another thing about depression" but I guess I relate to this too well.
Generally speaking, things have been great. Got into college, graduated college, got a job where I learn constantly, I exercise regularly, commute via bike sometimes, eat mostly healthy (I get too much sugar but consider it a gimme). I don't have much that I desire, but I can afford the little material desires since I save pretty much everything I earn and paid off student loans ASAP. Love life's a crapshoot but I can ignore that 95% of the time and keep the extra time to myself. Canada even legalized weed so I took that up, and it's been really genuinely enjoyable.
I know I can make everything work out, I'm a smart person. But still... I'm depressed. I'll pull through, I hope everyone here does the same.
Please note that though depression is a sickness, it can help to be treated with these things, and the lack of these things are contributing factors as well.
If you are depressed and you have no social life, don't exercise, and wallow in self pity most days, starting to do those things can help you.
A therapist might tell you the exact same thing, but you should still see one.
There are no absolutes
I really didn’t know this, I’ve never been depressed and I’ve always been confused how someone could be like that.
Please please PLEASE go talk to a therapist. You are NOT weak if you do. In fact you are strong enough to tell yourself you need someone else. Not a lot of people are willing to admit to that.
Yeah this is me. Have a lot of positive in my life but absolutely ready to move on. I’m not planning on suicide but I would be very relieved to pass away. It’s miserable knowing my potential and still no desire to live over a medical condition. Maybe one day I’ll be happy.
This is true, but it also seems to downplay the importance of those factors (exercise, building relationships etc) in treating depression in others, as if those things don't matter. They do.
Work, relationships, exercise, can all make a huge difference, depending on the person, and depending on the depression.
I appreciate that this post has a particular message in mind, but the message being delivered might not be entirely constructive.
People seem to think that success and achieving goals will cure us. Even those of us who are sick like this think that this success will make things better, and so when we accomplish something and we don’t get that rush of happiness or feeling of success, it just causes us to sink further and further down, because why even try to live a good life if you just proved to yourself that no matter what you do, that sickness in your gut or your chest or wherever you feel it just keeps growing and growing and you convince yourself that it’s going to end one day anyway.
Depression is an asshole and I wish people would take it more seriously.
I thought this was a funny subreddit :(
I went through hell for the last 10 or so years. It was only until last year I was properly diagnosed and treated.
Yeah, it sucks. You can do your best, get a pass in everything you do, be amazing, and yet.. Depression don't give a fuck. It slams you into the ground repeatedly, using the worst possible negative thoughts, the ones you never tell anyone about, to continually crush your mind and soul.
I've gotten treatment since late last year, and I'm doing a lot better, now. I still get the thoughts very rarely, but I just tell them they can go fuck themselves and jump into a flaming pit of napalm filled with glass shards.
Then I get back to whatever I was doing.
My dad had untreated bi-polar disorder his entire life.. self medicated.. he had his ups which were way up, and then slept for days.
When he was up, he was the funniest, most loving person, and had most beautiful smile you'd ever see in your life.
Right before he died he seemed to be so... light. He seemed to be at peace, truly happy even. I didnt know that was a warning sign until years after he was gone.
People somehow thing mental health and physical health are separate
Like the brain ... which has identifiable abnormalities in the majority of patients with mood disorders (key structures are too big or too small, connectivity between regions is verifiably affected, all of which can be seen with brain scans if compared to a control population) is definitely a physical thing
Those changes to the brain are physical
Yet mental health is somehow laughable and people need to “choose happy “
Try a few neuroscience courses and a couple psych degrees and suffer from mental illness your entire lives and get back to me there, bucko
Saying mental and physical health is like saying drugs and alcohol.
Alcohol is a drug. And mental health is physical.
People freak when you have a brain tumor; omg get treatment so not your fault and not a choice but you have anxiety or depression? Think it away, bitch
The brain is pretty unarguably the most important part of your body
Perfect post for today. I’m so defeated today in a. All energetic way. I wish this feeling would go away but now I understand that I’m a walking stable depressed
Person. I’ve been suicide ideationing all day yet still make a classroom laugh and had a nice phone call with my fam. Something is not enough for me but I don’t want what.
The same goes for addicts. They are sick. Not weak minded. Not criminals
My cousin committed suicide a few days ago. He had all of these things going for him. I did his wedding video and the video and photographs show such a happy relationship. However, he was very depressed. You can have everything going for you but depression doesn't care.